To many “he” or “she” is just a word, but for the transgender individual these words pose an emotionally charged socialization. An instance of misgendering, being a very common experience for transgender individuals, has an association with violence and ultimately a denial of self. While the trans community has recognized the significance of accurate language in including trans persons in social groups, the relationship between language and an individual’s identity has yet to be fully explored. This research seeks to define the role of pronouns as a connection to the trans individual’s personal identity. Specifically, how someone’s use of accurate pronouns may recognize who an individual is and the adverse impact of inaccurate language. My approach is contextual, contingent on the knowledge one has about the person they are speaking about, in hopes of reconciling the issue of privacy and potential harm of misgendering a person. Under an ethical framework, I assert that we have a positive duty to use the pronouns that a trans person prefers. However, one can only say someone’s pronouns if they are aware of the pronouns that person uses. So in order to maintain a protection of both one’s personal identity and privacy, I propose that one ought to use “they” in reference to another person until they are aware of that person’s pronouns with certainty.